Sorry is a magic word just like Thank you and Excuse me. These words make us feel better and define our behaviour. Saying sorry is one way of apologizing to others and demonstrating how you value and care about other people’s feelings and emotions.
Teaching children to say sorry is very important. It helps your child to be responsible and be accountable for his actions and mistakes. It also teaches your child to be a human being and empathic to others. We have compiled some of the ways to teach your child to say sorry and mean it.
Be exemplary to your children: Children imitate what adults do at home. If you are an unapologetic parent to your children and other people, there is no way your children will learn.
As a mother, I sometimes break my children’s toys when I am cleaning or just by accident. Then when my children find out, the first thing they do is confronting and accusing each other.
I do not sit and watch my children accuse each other of something that I did. So, I call them and tell them the truth. I do not only tell the truth, but I go ahead and apologize.
By saying sorry to your child, you are walking the talk.
Role-play game: Role-play is a technique of training and making people participate in any situation. Some words seem to be so simple but very difficult to say. Demonstrate to your child how to apologize correctly.
- Eye contact
- Make sure your child does not only say sorry but also say another cheering word.
- Let your child also practice voice tone when apologizing.
Help your child deal with the emotions:
Children tend to be defensive of their actions when they are wrong. In this case, getting the child to say sorry is not easy. Therefore, you have to help the child deal with his feelings by asking him questions.
For instance, Why did you slap your friend? How will you feel if someone else hits you? Go ahead and tell him that fighting or beating someone is not the only way of solving problems. Your child will realize his mistake, cope with his emotion and know the purpose of apologizing.
Show love to your child: After your child has apologized genuinely, hug her. This will help a child not to feel embarrassed about what she did. Tell her how proud you are to encourage her and make her feel better.