A girl commits suicide after her parents blamed her for performing poorly in the primary leaving examination. It is a lesson to parents.

 A teenage girl scored 25 aggregates in her primary leaving examinations in Uganda and was blamed by her parents for performing poorly in school. She reacted by committing suicide. She left a suicidal note saying that she was tired of being a laughing stock. 

It is heartbreaking and painful to the parents, siblings and the entire nation for losing a young soul.

However, this scenario leaves us, parents, with a lot of questions and lessons learned too.

  1. Helping children deal with bad news
  2. How to blame our children?
  3. Confidentiality of our children.

Help children to deal with bad news. Children often panic when they hear that their examination results are out. Some children find it hard to pick their results direct from school or read them via message. They ask a close friend or sibling to check their results and show a sign of whether they are good or bad. When your child gets bad grades, be part of the problem and make them feel better. Discuss the way forward, not blaming the child all the time.

Confidentiality of our children: Protect your children as much as you can. It is not right to tell everyone in the village how your child has performed poorly in school. Keep children information within the family members.

How to express your disappointment: Nothing makes a parent happy as a child performing well at school. Some parents gift their children to motivate them to work harder. It is stressful for parents when children get bad grades. Parents may say negative comments to the children or react by beating them to express their disappointment. It’s okay to talk about it, but do not use humiliating words to your child. Words such as, Go get married instead of wasting my money, You are good for nothing. I wish I gave birth to a boy child. It is common among us Ugandan parents.

Lastly, let us not forget what is most important under the sun. Education is the key to success for children, but their lives are the most important. There is no way your children will achieve their dreams if you do not guide them to the right path. 

 It is not a must for your child to go to University. Parents should support children under all circumstances because, in the real world, both the educated and uneducated, those with poor, and good grades need each other. 

Published by Motherly heart

My name is Mary Ajambo, and I am a blogger at motherly heart. I am a mother. I love writing. I am here to make parenting an Interesting adventure for both mums and dads.

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